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Splitting up at Christmas

(8 Posts)
Tinseltears Thu 24-Dec-15 11:10:04

My now ex and I have just called it a day after 18 months. Terrible timing but once the 'are you happy' conversation started it seems there was no going back!

We planned to spend the whole Christmas break together including New Years Eve.

We live together, I am camped back at my parents for now.

Can anyone offer some hand holding or words of wisdom to help me?

AuntieStella Thu 24-Dec-15 11:15:26

I think this is going to be frivolous rather than wise (hope you don't mind).

a) if 'twere to be done, 'twere best done quickly (mangled Shakespeare?) as once the decision is made, you can't stay on the original plan
b) unless your parents are really odd, Christmas with them is likely to be a good thing
c) can you get an invitation to a good NYE party? Not to start looking, IYSWIM, but just to remind yourself of what going out is like.

LoveAGoodRummage Thu 24-Dec-15 11:20:27

I split up with an ex around Christmas. I ended up at my brother's in laws and had a whale of a time drinking red wine with bro's MIL. Everything works itself out and well done for not waiting for the supposed 'right time.'

Tinseltears Thu 24-Dec-15 11:50:37

Thanks both. I think the prospect of rebuilding your life seems much more on an upheaval when you should be relaxing and enjoying the break!

RedMapleLeaf Thu 24-Dec-15 12:07:30

You poor thing flowers

If you're anywhere near me I'll meet up with you for a drink and mince pie. It's my first Christmas with my parents due to separation with ex in about 15 years.

TeaFathers Thu 24-Dec-15 12:42:35

fair play to you for having the guts to end it despite this being the time of year it is.

if you have a look around on MN, there are a number of females hanging on by their fingernails to disinterested, lazy, selfish, cunty cocklodgers and manchildren. its all actually putting me in a bad mood.

you're far better off on your own than with someone just for the sake of not being single.
you've now just created a gap for someone better to walk into your life, when you're ready for it.
good on you and may you have a fab xmas and 2016.

CC88 Thu 24-Dec-15 19:51:44

Christmas is a wonderful time but it is also just another day in our lives on a schedule that might not fit in with all of our lives. This is my second Christmas single and being alone. Last year I was devastated, this year I'm honestly quite happy. I've spent a year making new friends, getting to know myself better, doing new things and I'm making the most of no longer being in the wrong relationship (for the sake of my ds too). Ride it out and you'll soon be upwards and onwards.

Dowser Thu 24-Dec-15 23:20:14

Just think how much further forward you will be by the new year. New year, new start and not dragging the old relationship along with you.

Two friends I know are having miserable Christmases. One stuck in hospital with pneumonia. The other with throat cancer who had hoped to be able to eat by now but won't be able to till the spring ( or drink either.)

But both are upbeat. They'll have their Christmas when they are well.

Just see tomorrow and this christmaS as a blip . This time next year it can all be wonderful.

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