Since October, I have been buying things for my kids for xmas. Many times I asked my DH to sit down with me and discuss what to get but it never happened, so I did what I usually do and ordered a lot online, knowing I could return what we don't need. So, finally I get him to look at the stuff and he says its all fine, "leave it as it is now". As usual no discussion or opinions shared, just instructing me what to do. But its not fine. I have overbought for one child, so she has more in her stocking than the other. So the sensible choices are buy more for the other one, or return stuff that is not needed. I suggested these options to my DH, but he said to leave it as it is because it doesn't matter. So I mulled this over for a couple of days, and went back to him and said, I am going to return three of the presents that are extra, as I have over-bought. So he raises his voice to a level that the kids will easily hear (ie. shouting - but apparently not in his book!) and says, "No, you bought those presents for your daughters stocking, and now you want to take them away from her and send them back". So I point out that I deliberately buy too much, so that I can look at the stuff and choose what to keep. At this point he just got nasty, mimicking my voice and continuing to talk up about how I am not being honest etc. I mean why is it such a big deal??? He could not give a shit about what I was buying before now, and I saved all year to enable us to buy the presents. He never listens to me at all. Every time I try to discuss anything or give my opinion he just shouts me down and tells me what to do. AIBU? I am aware that this is a stressful time of year for me, and probably most women. Is this what all men do? Am I just oversensitive???
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