Hi all this is my first post. My ex was a complete control freak. He threw wine over me in a bar, threw a suitcase at me when pregnant, I called the police but retracted my statement after mum not wanted social services involved. He tried strangling me when pregnant. Threatened to knock me out whilst I was carrying our 4 day old baby. Isolated me from my family and ripped me off financially knowing I was going to go on maternity leave. I finally kicked him out after the knock out threat. Told my health visitor everything. I was then allowing him access whenever he wanted he could stay the night too but he'd get abusive to the point where I'd cry so I limited his access to days only. Still he was abusive he hated my mum blamed her for the separation only because she told him what she thought of him.
I was giving his mum and dad access 1 day a week also all at my house and I'd leave. In the end due to his abuse I made contact Fri 7-10 and sat 10-2. He was making digs at me at every visit even though I'd see him all of 5 minutes. I was sick of his comments like where's your breast milk etc. I'd tell him to stay out of my life and my business. Still underhanded abuse from him. The final straw was I had my smear at my check up he gave me an std. We used to work for the same company and the arse went and told people from my work and painted me out to be the bad guy. When I heard this I flipped and kicked him out of my house told him to take me to court as I'm sick of his abuse. He's now on facebook giving it the fathers 4 justice nonsense saying I'm abusing my son through alienation. I've honestly tried to be amicable with this guy but he's such a taker. I'm sick of it. I know he's reverted back to taking recreational drugs as he's hanging around with the losers he used to and he drinks loads. He sent me a solicitors letter requesting access my solicitor has responded with no way due to him not putting my son's welfare first. He's not bought my son a thing the selfish b now he's paying his £81 a week and wants to control me. I told his mum about everything and she said oh well youre not a saint. His whole familyare slamming me on facebook saying I'm psycho and evil playing god. I'm sick of this scum don't know how I ended up dating such scum. A non molestation warning letter has been sent to him by my solicitor. He hasn't got a pot to pee in he's already minus 800 quid into his 2k overdraft. Even after stealing from me all those months. What's the liklihood of him getting unsupervised access? My baby 8 10 weeks old and I'd be gutted if he and his family are allowed to influence him.
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chanel1983 · 21/12/2015 23:57
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