been seeing a guy since October, so still early days.
Friday evening he came over, he had had a bad day, so we stayed in chilled chatted, he stayed over, had sex twice, following morning we stayed in bed for 3 hours chatting, he probably more than me, not just lying with arm round me but really holding me tight. we finally get up for food, chatting all the while then he leaves as his family have made plans to get together. he is open and honest with me what they are doing, plans change, he lets me know. when we are not together there is a fairly contestant stream of messaging between us, averaging 100 plus a day.... some days more some less depending on how busy we are what we are upto
I was out sat night, with my friends, there were a few groups of my friends. he knows I'm out.
I guess he is out, send him a message, asking where he is at, don't get a reply.... he walks into the pub I'm in, and is quite stand offish with me, he is with his sister and mate, they have been drinking for quite a while but I had been drinking too so didn't notice how drunk they were or were not... they then make a plan to go somewhere else, I'm staying with my friends, so the guy I'm seeing says send me a message in half an hour with where you are at as his phone only had 3% battery.... I forget!
later on I lost my friends so just nip into a pub for a wee before trying to find them, bump into they guy I'm seeing, his sister and mate again, so hang out with them, go to few more places, over a couple of hours, and my guy is still a bit stand offish.... then while I'm chatting to his 'mate' the mate makes a pass at me, I push him away, and head straight over to my guy, he instantly can see something is up, and asks, so I tell him..... we leave, mate and sister as well, my guy walks a head with sister, I cant keep up, bad shoes, mate stays with me, and tries it on again... I ask him what thinks he is doing... he says to me 'cant you see 'my guy' doesn't want a girlfriend' ...... my guy and sister wait for us to catch up, I call a cab 'my guy' wont come back with me, he lives with his sister and was going to be back in town the following day at 2pm to meet friends before catching a train to another city for a night out there to celebrate his birthday which is today, so I understand why he wasn't coming back with me..... however while waiting for taxi... I say your 'mate' told me you don't want a girlfriend he said ' perhaps I dont' ..... taxi arrived, I left
following morning I messaged him first,(which is normal as I usually wake first) saying 'hope you have a great time away, can you try not to tell your mates how great I am pls so they don't make a pass at me pls' jokingly, he apologises, and now we seem to be back to normal on the messaging thing.... he will be back tonight after being on the raz for the whole while he was away, it is difficult to know what to do, and I'm not sure if we will even manage to meet up before Christmas.... just don't know weather to sweep under carpet or try and discuss..... thing is it is early days, I know I do what a boyfriend, but don't know him well enough to know if I want it to be him, but I do like him a lot....... just don't know what to think of it all...... sorry for such a long post
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mate of guy im seeing makes a pass at me....what to do
Totty24 · 21/12/2015 22:57
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My apologies on your name origins - that's a sweet story, and it's your choice.
It just made me 
in the context of how little you seemed to value yourself in your OP.
Anyone man I was seeing, boyfriend or still dating, who wasn't over the moon to see me on a night out could fuck off!
Look, I've made my own bad choices in the past so please don't take this as smug... but I've also been seeing someone since October. Every time we've had a chance to meet with his friends or work colleagues there (3x now) he has been grinning like an idiot, and it's all he can do not to say "this is my girlfriend, she's my girlfriend, I'm her boyfriend, we are boyfriend and girlfriend". He's just pleased as punch to show me off. That's how it should be. (OK, they don't have to totally grin like an idiot! But don't bother with anyone who doesn't bother with you in front of friends)
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