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I've posted this here as wasn't sure where would be best.
I work in a management position and someone on my team is EA. His partner also works for the same company, I know her quite well so have a little insight.
He is so controlling - he outright told her she cannot be friends with another colleague (who is not single) purely because he is a man and they got on quite well. He is open about this and says it's about her 'respecting his views' even if she disagrees.
Recently they had an row and she was upset. I was talking to her (about something unrelated) and he came in the room, ignored me and started trying to emotionally blackmail her - he relentlessly pushed her for an explanation for her behaviour, using her words against her and twisting them.
I have been in an abusive relationship and that conversation made me feel sick, I remembered that feeling of knowing I was saying the wrong thing but with no idea what the right thing was.
They have now had yet another 'break' and he is supposedly beside himself - all emotional FB status updates, cryptic mentions of suicide and how he just wants to try again. She is going to go back, she has said as much.
I'm not sure what, if anything, I can do. He seems to think I am on his side so keeps taking to me about her. I am hiding my discomfort and deflecting conversation where I can but I can't listen anymore. Help!
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CrazyBaubles · 21/12/2015 20:44
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