Both my unborn childs relatives live 7 hours apart and I don't drive.Both want me to live with them.Baby-daddy has a clean flat and relatives offering financial assistance/support while Mother has dirty cluttered house with 7 dogs who are not house-trained who are very nippy and noisy that rule the roost.I have been offfered a most likely 6 month-1 yr wait for social housing but my baby is due in less than 2months in the meantime besides living in a kind of emergency hostel mum and baby daddy are my options.My mum is making me feel so guilty for wanting to move out but I find the idea of making formula up in her doggy kitchen gross and while midwives have suggested me locking myself in my boiler room bedroom of my mums house as dogs wee on my bed jump up and challenge me. I know with needing formula (there are medical reasons I may not be able to breastfeed)it could be very very impractical and stressful.My mum keeps on telling me to stay living with her and wait and see how her 7 dogs react to the baby when it comes but I fear by then I'll be so exhausted and homelife with mum would have ruined my baby/pregnancy/birth experience.The dogs refuse to use the garden down to foxes(my mum constantly is concerned by their feelings and them being scared keeps the lights on of the entire house bar my room all night every night in case the dogs get scared of the dark.Every day the floor is getting crapped on and my mum is comparing my baby to another puppy (she has hand reared puppies)and thinks she will be a great help.How do I let go of my guilt at leaving my mum and her smelly house?My midwife is not keen for me to move such a distance as it would mean changing midwives drs and hospitals and I'd have to take my notes with me and do a transfer but at the same time she doesn't have to live like this.Feel so guilty and frustrated both my mother and midwife have made me feel guilty like I should just lock myself in my bedroom and be patient:(
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