I know what they say... never mix business and pleasure....
but i drunkenly got intimate with a (fanciable) client the other day. he's a new client, a friend of a friend, and I'm a bored lone parent.
he's only the second person I've been intimate with in three years, and weirdly I felt we had a connection. This does not just happen with me. I'm sure it was reciprocal. He seemed keen to hang out. It was a late night work meeting (only time available after my young DS goes to sleep) with wine involved. One thing led to another...!!
I can't recall every detail (in fact I was pretty wasted) but i thought we clicked. We spent the night talking and then...
Afterwards we exchanged pleasant texts but little since. I voiced my concern about working together in future given the circumstances saying I didn't want to make things difficult for either of us so was it a good idea to do more work together? he seemed up for it and initiated asking me to do a couple of projects. Why??
I did an hour or so's project work for him, emailed it and he hasn't replied for days. I feel a bit used but weird. He suggested a professional relationship was possible. He's a fairly professional guy and the work we've done together before has worked out fine. but the communication has become less and less since - started out frequently and then just dropped off. I haven't pestered him, I've been polite and friendly and professional. This is why I expressly asked was it a good idea to do the work together, and he said yes. Why?? So I feel weird that he's ignoring me now.
I know from my mate he has a little bit of a reputation as a ladies man, but that said we had a nice evening. Quite intimate. He said he's not been with anyone for a year. I actually believe him even though we don't know each other that well.
I guess I feel rejected. But the very least he could have done after encouraging me to do some work (post intimacy) for him is be professional and friendly. But nothing for ages. I am going to call him on it I think, but FFS why couldn't he be upfront about wanting to step back or whatever?
The work we did in the past he was pretty quick to reply so it's unusual.
I guess I am overinvested. I thought we clicked at the very least to allow for professional friendliness. But fuck me he should have known that things would get awkward. Why put me in the difficult position of asking me to do more work for him (against my warnings that it could be awkward), pretending it's all professional, then ignoring me for days?
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azimazi · 19/12/2015 00:55
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