Well, I've now pointed out to him in no uncertain terms that I will have a copy of our court order in my handbag & if anyone accosts us in the airport, I will of course call on security to remove them.
The thought of being publicly carted off won't have appealed - his inner narrative is very much 'STBXW deranged psycho Bad Mother, me Superdad cruelly prevented from living with poor children whom I Really Love You Know.'
So I've had a rather chastened 'woe is me' reply begging me to change dates to a 'compromise' (which suits him, but cuts into dc's time with my dps...).
So I'll probably agree to that - I can sort something else out with my parents. He IS the dc's dad, even if he's a knobhead.
I just wish he didn't always put us through these pointless displays of chest beating & willy waving!
Thanks ladies. I'm pretty sure he's now back in his box...
I'd point out to him that you have offered him 3 opportunities to be a decent parent and he has chosen not only not to be amenable, but to threaten you.
Point out to him fairly and squarely that if he so much as squeaks in your direction in future you won't even consider making any amendment to what suits you and those that are supportive and beneficial to you. Which currently does not appear to include him.
Let this be a threat you will go through with: threaten me again and you'll get what you're given.
Remember that idiots like this do this from a position of insignificance and inferiority, so all you have to do is stare him out and not blink.
Oh the court order does allow for them to have a couple of weeks contact at Xmas (at my instigation - I want them to see their father & other relatives). So I'd be - rightly- in deep shit if I didn't bring them over!
What it doesn't allow him to do is dictate when/where the handovers will take place, or to agree to one set of dates then try to demand that I collect the kids from him a day later & several hundred miles away, necessitating another day's travelling.