tricky one!

[Jw35]

I'm single but have 2 dc's (youngest a baby) and I'm pregnant. The two youngest were conceived via a donor. I quite like being single.

Anyway out the blue an old flame found me on fb. We knew each other about 15 years ago and although we were never really an item as such we hung out a lot. I was 20 and he was 34 with 2 kids. I was too flighty and young to settle with him and felt a bit strange that he was so much older. We did sleep together but only a handful of times. I did fancy him but not in a knee trembling way. We had a lot of fun together and got on well.

The only reason we stopped seeing each other was I moved away and we drifted apart. Anyway the last few days we've been chatting on fb messenger and it's been lovely to catch up etc.

So today he said 'would it be too soon or too creepy to ask for your phone no, I'd love to hear your voice again'. To me, he's keen to get involved I think?

Thing is we live a couple of hundred miles apart and I'm pregnant with a baby etc. it just wouldn't work would it? Should I just put him off and trail off the chats? I think I would possibly get involved if he lived nearer but I'm not sure! He's just turned 50 and I'm 36 now, the age gap wouldn't bother me anymore.

[Tiggeryoubastard]

Hey, if you want to be a booty call, that's up to you and your self esteem.

[Jw35]

What?

[Tiggeryoubastard]

That's what you were before, his bit on the side. I'm guessing there's no one else available so he's tried you again (possibly with others).

[Tiggeryoubastard]

Sorry sorry sorry I read the OP as married with kids. Apologies.

[Jw35]

Not at all! He was single and we hung out together a lot. It was me who didn't want to settle down, he wanted to be together! I certainly wasn't a bit in the side thank you very much!

[Tiggeryoubastard]

If you're both single and were before it sounds like you could have a good time.

[Tiggeryoubastard]

Ok, I've apologised, and I mean it. Go for it, why not? You like being single, this could be ideal.

[Tiggeryoubastard]

Just be careful he isn't carrying too much of a torch for you or it could get messy.
peace offering.

[Jw35]

Thanks I thought you must have got the wrong idea there!

[Tiggeryoubastard]

I did, I misread or read something that wasn't there.

[Jw35]

No worries

[Tomboyinatutu]

Why not give it a chance? You may be pregnant but as you say its from a donor so there isn't anyone else in the picture.

[Goingtobeawesome]

Tell him you are pregnant but would like to meet up. Then wait to see if he replies..

[Jw35]

He already knows! It was the first thing I said!

[hownottofuckup]

Give it a chance.

[pocketsaviour]

I would give it a chance, why not? You've nothing to lose and you're obviously strong minded and independent if you're raising DC alone and with another one coming!

[spudlike1]

Give it a chance ...just because your strong and single doesn't mean you have to be strong and single.
Open up to life s possibilties, open doors don't close doors.
Who knows

[spudlike1]

I don't think his behaviour is at all cynical

[spudlike1]

You could be good for each other