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tricky one!

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Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 16:26:00

I'm single but have 2 dc's (youngest a baby) and I'm pregnant. The two youngest were conceived via a donor. I quite like being single.

Anyway out the blue an old flame found me on fb. We knew each other about 15 years ago and although we were never really an item as such we hung out a lot. I was 20 and he was 34 with 2 kids. I was too flighty and young to settle with him and felt a bit strange that he was so much older. We did sleep together but only a handful of times. I did fancy him but not in a knee trembling way. We had a lot of fun together and got on well.

The only reason we stopped seeing each other was I moved away and we drifted apart. Anyway the last few days we've been chatting on fb messenger and it's been lovely to catch up etc.

So today he said 'would it be too soon or too creepy to ask for your phone no, I'd love to hear your voice again'. To me, he's keen to get involved I think?

Thing is we live a couple of hundred miles apart and I'm pregnant with a baby etc. it just wouldn't work would it? Should I just put him off and trail off the chats? I think I would possibly get involved if he lived nearer but I'm not sure! He's just turned 50 and I'm 36 now, the age gap wouldn't bother me anymore.

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:28:10

Hey, if you want to be a booty call, that's up to you and your self esteem.

Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 16:30:10

What? confused

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:31:48

That's what you were before, his bit on the side. I'm guessing there's no one else available so he's tried you again (possibly with others).

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:32:29

Sorry sorry sorry I read the OP as married with kids. Apologies.

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:33:13

If you're both single and were before it sounds like you could have a good time.

Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 16:33:13

Not at all! He was single and we hung out together a lot. It was me who didn't want to settle down, he wanted to be together! I certainly wasn't a bit in the side thank you very much! hmm

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:34:09

Ok, I've apologised, and I mean it. Go for it, why not? You like being single, this could be ideal.

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:35:03

Just be careful he isn't carrying too much of a torch for you or it could get messy.
flowers peace offering.

Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 16:35:06

Thanks I thought you must have got the wrong idea there!

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 17-Dec-15 16:36:12

I did, I misread or read something that wasn't there. blush

Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 16:38:07

No worries smile

Tomboyinatutu Thu 17-Dec-15 16:42:06

Why not give it a chance? You may be pregnant but as you say its from a donor so there isn't anyone else in the picture.

Goingtobeawesome Thu 17-Dec-15 16:50:37

Tell him you are pregnant but would like to meet up. Then wait to see if he replies..

Jw35 Thu 17-Dec-15 18:21:53

He already knows! It was the first thing I said!

hownottofuckup Thu 17-Dec-15 18:24:52

Give it a chance.

pocketsaviour Thu 17-Dec-15 21:27:26

I would give it a chance, why not? You've nothing to lose and you're obviously strong minded and independent if you're raising DC alone and with another one coming!

spudlike1 Thu 17-Dec-15 21:34:46

Give it a chance ...just because your strong and single doesn't mean you have to be strong and single.
Open up to life s possibilties, open doors don't close doors.
Who knows

spudlike1 Thu 17-Dec-15 21:35:33

I don't think his behaviour is at all cynical

spudlike1 Thu 17-Dec-15 21:36:04

You could be good for each other

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