Just offloading really.
I had a telephone call this evening from my DM looking for the address of STBX-PIL. STBXH and I separated several years ago (well...he left).
He was and is emotionally, financially and verbally abusive. Continues to be the golden child of his parents. Despite my bending over backwards to ensure that DC remain in touch with their father and his family, I am demonised to my face and behind my back. I've got around all that in my head- "blood is thicker than water", if they admit how bad he is, it will reflect on them etc.
So, my mother rang me to ask for the address of PIL who are not at their usual home this Christmas. She wanted to send them a Christmas card- it emerged that she has continued to exchange cards with them every year since the split.
It really, really hurts.
I've had arms-length emotional support from my family; "oooh, he is awful" type remarks. But sadly, no practical support with DC, left out of conversations, been screamed at because I "had a long face" when alone at Christmas, told that it was no surprise that he left as I am "difficult to live with".
I don't know what I want from posting- just to unload the hurt really. I've done so much work to detach from it all and it/they still have the power to betray and hurt me. :-(
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Wow that hurt!
HilarysMantelpiece · 16/12/2015 22:47
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