Hi - first time posting on here and i really need some help!
I have been unhappy in my job for a while and have been talking about moving down to London for a while. Recently i applied for a job down in London and found out i got it yesterday. Unfortunately my fiancé has now told me he really loves his job here and doesn't want to move and i don't know what to do.
Our situations are completely different - he loves his job and all his family is nearby. He can transfer within the same company so it isn't completely starting anew but he is worried that he won't get on with his colleagues as well and will have to form new relationships with clients. On the other hand i have been frustrated with my job for a while and have no family nearby at all.
Although we are settled where we are now i am worried that my career would basically stall if i stayed but can i really ask him to give up everything at such an uncertain future? Although the new job looks great on paper there is no guarantee it will work out. Generally speaking i am the flighty one that is always looking for change whereas he is much more grounded but can be overly scared of change.
How on earth do we make such a decision?! It just feels like the only solution is for one of us to give in to the other and I'm scared I'm being too selfish in asking him to move.
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Tq205 · 16/12/2015 09:56
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