Hi, if i'm in the wrong place I apologise and please move me.
I have two children with my partner and he has a 16 year old daughter from his first marriage. We had regular contact until 2 years ago when she decided she wasn't coming anymore after we told her off for becoming unreliable, she was making excuse after excuse every week. Her mum has said she doesnt want to come "she has her reasons".
She never felt pushed out, I have been her stepmum since she was 2, she was treated like a princess whenever she came and we continued to do so after the children were born.
We have been blocked from her social media etc but we still send cards/messages/presents on exam results/birthdays etc and ask her to come to any holiday or event we are attending, we have even asked her mum to help out.
Our daughter has an ipod and she messages her daily and tries to facetime her. She sporadically replies and has not once answered one of her calls. We have even suggested she has the children for a couple of hours at her house to rebuild their relationship whenever she wants.
Now my problem is that my little girl is very sensitive. She is asking every single day where her sister is and why she doesn't come. We are in a lose lose situation, we tell her she doesn't want to come it will break her heart, we lie we are giving her false hope. Its not a case of out of sight out of mind because this has been going on for 2 years. My daughter has difuculty sleeping, she is still wide awake at midnight. I really think the whole situation is having a psychological effect. Combined with the upset for me and my oh it is a horrid horrid situation.
Now my question is... does anyone have any advice? Can we take her to court and force her to have contact with her half sister and brother? Is that too ridiculous?
This whole situation is making me terribly anxious.
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Fancyfeet1 · 15/12/2015 20:36
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