Is it normal for the perpetrators of abuse, be It physical, emotional, psychological, to live out normal lives? Maybe its a silly question, but I always imagined them to have some sort of obvious problem.
My stepdad was one of my first abusers. And he clearly had problems to the outside world, namely alcoholism. It wasnt long before his whole life went down the drain, job gone, he had no friends, rarely went out. When he did he was unpleasant. He was unpleasant to visitors. Point is, people could tell he was awful. They perhaps didn't know how far he went.
My current partner... To everyone who doesn't know what i have told them, he will appear a charming man. Polite, friendly, helpful. Outgoing even. Supportive. He takes the kids to school. He attends major events. Sometimes does a school trip. Point is, to anyone, they would think he was a lovely, normal man. A man who has taken on 4 kids that aren't even his!! A man who plays with the kids. A man who doesn't go to the pub every weekend. A great man. A good catch.
Is this usual? Do they always seem so normal?
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Dorsetmama · 15/12/2015 20:18
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