Oh my God. I was just listening to some crappy 90s music and one particular song made some horrible memories come flooding back.
I was 8, tucked up in bed. Heard lots of banging and screaming downstairs. Ran down, my older sister was in floods of tears and my Dad had my Mum trapped in the kitchen, hitting her and roaring. My mum was screaming. My older sister was on crutches and we were begging him to stop. We tried to open the kitchen door but he slammed it in our faces. It was terrifying.
Then it was like a chain reaction. Other memories came right back. Like the time on Christmas Eve when Dad went to belt me and my Nan jumped in his way and stopped him, and he tried to push her down the stairs. Or the time when I pissed him off and he actually pushed me down the stairs.
I feel like vomiting. I've wondered for so long why I'm so fucked up. Self harming, anorexia, self sabotaging.
Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.
Thing is, everything is lovely now. He's calmed down, we have wonderful family time together. We have lovely family celebrations and I really do enjoy them. And I love my Dad dearly, he and I get on great now.
How the fuck do I deal with this? Am a bit of a wreck right now.
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Fucking song made some deeply repressed memories come screaming back
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ShadowsCollideIsSurroundedByAd · 15/12/2015 01:24
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