I am on the verge of separating from my DH of 4 years (together 12) - he 'doesn't love me anymore'. We don't have kids, although not for want of trying - have battled unexplained infertility including one miscarriage and one failed IVF in the last few years (bonus point: he told me he didn't think he loved me anymore on the 2nd anniversary of the miscarriage). I want to fix things, but it seems he really doesn't. We're not arguing, but it's like a stranger has moved in, I literally don't recognise this man anymore.
We have counselling scheduled as a last ditch attempt, but I think he's just box ticking, he won't talk to me about anything other than small talk.
My family and friends will be supportive, I know this, but they're all quite far away. I don't have any friends in my home town, but can't leave because of work. He's unlikely to move either as his family are nearby.
I just don't know how to get through the bone crushing misery of it all. I thought infertility was bad enough, but now I am facing being on my own in my mid 30s AND no kids. He's obviously been feeling this way for a while but I feel like I've had the rug pulled from under my feet, I didn't have a clue. I just want to crawl into a hole and never come out.
How do you survive this? I'm terrified.
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CandleWithHair · 14/12/2015 20:19
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