I've name changed for this because ExH knew my previous name.
Has anyone got any idea on how to separate amicably when there has been abuse?
ExH called time on our marriage a week ago. He came to see DC yesterday and immediately kicked off about my attitude. He has moved on already and I am still adjusting. He took it as a personal attack when I said I might need a bit more time to come to terms with the end of our marriage. His anger is, sadly, nothing new.
He was abusive (physically and emotionally) on and off. I should have ended it years ago, I know that, but I was so beaten down and in love with him.
I need this to be as amicable as possible for the DC, but I think that the only way that will happen is if I roll over to all of ExH's demands. He has already told one DC that we were separating, two hours after we agreed that we wouldn't say anything until after Christmas, and then buggered off leaving me to pick up the pieces.
Is amicability a pipe dream in these circumstances? Is it even something I should be hoping for? I don't much want anything to do with him ever again. But I need to do what's best for the DC.
It is likely he will have a new girlfriend in the next week, based on things he has said, if he wasn't already cheating on me.
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Is it possible to separate amicably after abuse?
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itsallgonetoshit · 14/12/2015 18:35
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