Me and dp live together. I am divorced with two older teens that i share time with my ex h and partner has two children of 17 and 12.
We are very happy and are planning to get married next year. No issues at all in our relationship.
However there are big problems with his ex wife. She has MS and still lives in the old marital home with the children. My dp sees the kids a few times a week, financially supports them completely etc.
The problem is that she only has a slight limp and is very well besides this. She recently had her yearly check up and her condition is stable. The drugs she is on work very well and she is likely to be like this for years.
She doesn't work but refuses to do anything at all in the house so dp pays for a cleaner.When he went there last night there was cat poo all over the kitchen floor and the mess was awful. DP is understandably very upset that his children live in this and will often clean rather than spending time with the children. His daughter of 12 says shes feeling depressed which is obviously also a big concern.
However he (and family members) says she has always been like this (she was only diagnosed a few years ago) throughout their marriage and it has always been like this with him doing absolutely everything. So much so that his dad told me that they feared he would have a breakdown and they were very glad when they parted.
She can go to the gym and has a small voluntary job but refuses to do anything else at all.
My partner has a very responsible job and travels as well so has lots on his plate. I'm very worried about his health and wonder how i can help him?
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awful situation with dps ex wife
Mrskeats · 10/12/2015 12:07
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