I'm always the one who contacts her 1st.
I'm always the one suggesting to catch up.
When I leave the plans open to her, she takes forever to reply (most recent, I messaged her 2 days ago asking her to set date and time, she's seen the message but not replied. I left the plans open to her because she works and I'm on mat leave so am free whenever) I've not messaged her since, I dont want to nag her.
I'm not constantly asking her to meet up either, I say I initiate a catch up maybe once a month, if that.
She only has time for me when her bf is away on a business trip or something.
When we do eventually meet up, she has to bring her bf along or the meeting doesn't happen.
It's her 1st relationship... so I completely understand her strong attachment to him, we were all like that in our 1st relationships! BUT they currently live together, they're engaged, and they're gna be spending the rest of their lives together.
Am I right to be a bit upset that she can't seem to spare, what, 2 hours one weekend in a month with me, without her bf being there? I get along with her bf but sometimes it's nice to catch up, girly chats, just us two girls. I have messaged her about this issue before, but she always brushes it off, mostly by ignoring that part of the message.
I don't know what I can do about this and bring up this issue with her without making her upset or making it seem like i'm being selfish and unreasonable...At our last catch up, I did want to discuss this with her face to face.. but of course... she invited her bf along... I couldn't say no, we would never meet up if I said her bf couldn't come. I would send her an e-mail or text telling her how I feel, but I reckon her bf will probably read it too.. awkward...
I know it's her life and her time so I can't really demand anything from her, but I don't think I'm being unreasonable... I've met up with her 3 times since September, only once was without her bf cos he was away on a business trip.
I guess I just feel a bit upset that a) she can't spare 2 hours for me in a month, if that. b) these are the last weeks we'll catch up alone, my baby is due next month. c) I'm moving abroad soon, she knows this, yet still can't spare anytime to hang out more. d) She can't go anywhere without her bf and I feel like I'm losing her as a friend in general. I don't know what I can do about this situation, obviously I don't want to lose her as a friend so I'm thinking I might just let it go, but I feel like letting it go also means letting our friendship go.
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Best friend is way too attached to her bf... losing patience with her, don't think I'm being unreasonable.
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JennyC520 · 07/12/2015 17:41
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