I need some honest advice, help and feedback as I am really struggling to cope at the moment.
My husband walked out on me and our kids 3 weeks ago. It was completely out of the blue. I am struggling emotional and physically to cope.
Just before he left he become very close to another woman. At the time 2 weeks before he walked out, i mention to him i was concerned over the closeness of their friendship. She is an employee of our joint business. They talked on the phone and messaged all the time, he claimed it was about work and she was having a hard time due to her mum being ill. Went for walks together and meals. He claims nothing happened and she is his best friend helping him to cope.
But since we split within the first week, friends of his asked if he was going to start a relationship with her. He has asked if she feelings for him and that he has feelings for her but claims he doesnt want to jump into a new relationship until after Christmas. But they still go out as friends 3-4 times a weeks. He is also worried as i said i couldnt work with her and she may have to leave.
i know relationships dont just end due to an affair or moving on to someone else, he wasnt happy with me.
i get the relationship is over and it hurts like hell. I just cant get over the way i have been treated. I feel humiliated, disrespected and finding it hard to be at work. After 18 years i thought i would of deserved better treatment and feel like our relationship meant nothing and i meant nothing. I feel also that he is trying to push me out of the business and i have been replaced by her. He prefer i worked from home rather that make her leave the business.
He feels neither or them have done anything wrong and its all me making it about focusing on it as a reason he left and that she shouldnt be made to leave our business. His reason for leaving was he wants a different lifestyle, going out socially more and he said i was boring and different to him.
I feel i am losing my mind. I am being civil and being nice as the kids are my number priority and they really need their dad. I cant cope with their more than friendship and how fast it is all happening.
I dont know how to move forward and this is now affecting me both mental and physically. Any help or advice would really help please.
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Bluebear123 · 06/12/2015 10:38
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