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I'm so worn out and had enough

(11 Posts)
Fooltomyself Sun 06-Dec-15 08:18:07

My "best friend" brings me down she is bitter.
Hates when people get anything she hasn't got.
Constantly bitches about everybody.
She has no other friends apart from me.
When I go out with other friends she hates it and makes sly comments.
A few days ago a friend poste on Facebook that we were going away for a few days and my best friend hasn't spoke since,she wrote on Facebook about sky friends(I'm her only friend so it's about me) then blocked me on whatsapp.
Now I always ask her if she wants to join us but she says no then bitches about my friends saying she hates them etc.
It was her birthday a couple of weeks ago and I bought her a ring from pandora and chocolates and flowers.
I often help her out with money,never get it back.
I pay for tea once a week.
I'm a good friend to her and I get treated like this.

She is just full of bitterness all the time.
Am I not allowed a life?
What's her problem? Why slag me off on Facebook I haven't done a thing..and then block me on whatsapp?

MyGastIsFlabbered Sun 06-Dec-15 08:20:18

She's not a friend, get rid asap.

IamlovedbyG Sun 06-Dec-15 08:22:28

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defineme Sun 06-Dec-15 08:23:46

Friends are meant to make you feel good, support you, have a laugh.
Drop her, block her.
Sounds like she enjoys leeching off you and making you feel bad.
You have other friends and you will be fine.

RedMapleLeaf Sun 06-Dec-15 08:25:24

How old are you??

Fooltomyself Sun 06-Dec-15 08:29:19

I'm 26 and she is 30

Joysmum Sun 06-Dec-15 09:07:58

Why do you enable her to use you in this way?

Fooltomyself Sun 06-Dec-15 09:27:14

I don't even know.
I'm done now tho.
I can't be arsed with her anymore.
She's mental.

Joysmum Sun 06-Dec-15 10:30:28

Good for you.

I think too often we such generous and understanding people that we look at others for our answers when we should be looking inwards.

Of course we can all have off days and do things we wouldn't normally. What you've described is a sustained pattern of her taking you for granted/for a ride. I think you could benefit from trying to understand what buttons it is she oushed that has made you accept this for so long.

RedMapleLeaf Sun 06-Dec-15 10:54:03

I would choose to step away from the drama OP.

rumred Sun 06-Dec-15 11:06:08

Paying for everything isn't healthy. The dynamic isn't healthy in your friendship so there were bound to be problems. A good friendship is reciprocal.

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