One of the mums from DS's school does not like me and makes it obvious but I have no idea why. When the boys started school she invited DS and I round for a playdate and all was fine. I sent her a text a few weeks later inviting them to ours and she read it but did not reply and since then has made it very obvious that she doesn't like me. She mostly ignores me if I say hello to her or just rolls her eyes, yet is lovely and friendly with everyone else, who all think she is great!
It is difficult as the boys are friends at school and there are lots of parties and school events where we come into contact with each other, not to mention school collection each day (the boys are in the same class and we have to wait in a small space to collect from their classroom!)
I know as adults we are not meant to care if someone likes us or not but I do find it quite upsetting and it makes me uncomfortable :(
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How to deal with it if someone makes it obvious they don't like you?
ExesAndOhs · 05/12/2015 22:42
Childish and churlish
That sort of behavior would be embarrassing in a six year old never mind an adult
She's low, easy to rise above
I agree that the best way is to pretend you haven't noticed. There is a woman who knows a lot of people I know and she CLEARLY doesn't like me 
and I used to smile and nod and act as though she wasn't totally blanking me when she was talking to my friends. But I started to feel a door mat, so then I started ignoring her back. Now I think the bad feeling seems to have escalated, although nothing has been said! But if I were to go on a night out and she were there, it'd spoil it for me.
So definitely fake normal.
I have exactly the same situation with a parent of a child my dd plays with-always looking down her nose at me.
We'd literally never spoken one word to each other when I first noticed the look of disdain she was giving me in the playground-didn't really notice at first (well I did but didn't really register anything about it) was only when it happened every single time I saw her for a while. I just leave her to it, it's her own problem not mine so I just act indifferent to her being there, she doesn't know me at all, only thing she knows about my family is that my dd (the one who is friends with hers) is autistic (I try and ignore the fact that her looks at me started after my dd shared with the class her diagnosis, we'd muddled along 3 school years before that without any looks from her).
I actually think my indifference makes her feel a bit uncomfortable as when we ended up sat on tables next to each other at a child's party she did end up speaking a few words to me whilst her daughter was stood chatting to me for the third time-was quite funny as you could see the effort it took for her
There are weirdos like this around at the school gates. You just need to breezily say Hi and walk on. Don't be rude or blank her at this stage because that would be poor behaviour from you and others will clock it.
It's more likely to be her problem, but that said, I'd still have a brief think about anything that you did/said that might have pissed her off. Do you think that it was something in the house like shoes not taken off or did your dc snatch a toy and you didn't intervene? Any random stuff like this? Some people are just completely nasty. I had a woman and her dd round from school (think nursery/rec) can't remember and she basically blatantly assessed how clever/not my dc were by testing them on shapes/random shit I can't remember. Anyway we failed the test . Although she was perfectly pleasant at my house, she completely scaled me back after that. I have another friend who she similarly ditched after one coffee. That friend is really nice and I am still friends with her several years later.
I too have a school mum nutter. She hates me!! Its been gone on 7 years and we have never spoken but she delights in telling others how much she hates me. Have to face her later at an out of school activitie so I shall just breathe and ignore
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I have one of these people at our school too. Not sure why she doesn't like me and dd2 but she doesn't. It's been going on years and we just kind of amiably ignore each other.
Until the other day.
I arrived wearing a hat, she clearly didn't recognise me and made a cheery comment to me about the weather. I went "", she realised her mistake and her 
face was a picture. I mumbled something vague and polite, she flushed bright red, went silent and stared studiously at a spot somewhere over my head. Bizarre.
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