This has been done to death, I realise that but I need to vent....
Chatting to a seemingly nice man from an online dating site. Seems genuine, nothing to suggest anything untoward, all his details seem to add up. Arranged to meet tonight for a first date. He messaged yesterday to say he had to cancel (due to health reasons, he has a health issue which is something he has to live with). I am fine with this as realise life isn't always predictable.... He is really keen to set something up for next week, if I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. So I reply, a nice message, saying no problem at all, these things happen - these are the days I'm around next week and can sort childcare.
Nothing. Not even the decency to say thanks for being understanding. Just nothing.
What pisses me off is that I didn't put any pressure on him to arrange a date... He cancelled and in that same message, said he really hoped I wouldn't judge him for cancelling, he would understood if I did, but he really hoped I would give him the benefit of the doubt and rearrange something for next week.
Why do that?? Why not just cancel and leave it at that. I'm an intelligent woman, I would have got that he wasn't that into me, and left it at that. Why ask me to set up an alternative date and then just disappear?
He was on Whatsapp last night, as it gives you the date & time. He read my message within a few minutes of me sending it late afternoon.
I just don't get men. Its not like we are children - both mid-40's. Why play these games at our age? It seems men are insistent that they want honesty etc in a relationship but are unwilling to treat others how they want to be treated themselves.
I'm not going to be sobbing into my coffee this morning - I realise he is not worth it. It just pisses me off no end!
End of rant......
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Why do men do this?!
changeoflife · 04/12/2015 07:14
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