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She must know, surely?

(10 Posts)
mincebloodypie Thu 03-Dec-15 21:28:48

I live in quite a small, close knit community. Everyone related, all the kids go to the same village school, the same activities etc. I love it, have always found it really warm and welcoming, although I was not born here
I recently started working evenings in the local pub. One man in particular has been a bit of a problem. Flirty, gropey. The other night he went too far, and his crotch made the aquaintance of my right knee.

He is always boasting of his conquests (why do people think bartenders are deaf?)

The thing is, he has a lovely wife, and three young children. And everyone knows what he gets up to. I have seen him snogging women who the next day, will be chatting to his wife at the school gates. He has told his stories to the husbands of the wife's best friends. He goes on frequent lad's holidays and trips with the village rugby club and sleeps with prostitutes

According to my boss, he

mincebloodypie Thu 03-Dec-15 21:32:39

Posted too soon

My boss says half the men in the village are up to similar. The rugby club is practically a way of life here, and they all are shagging round on their trips

Either way, i just can't get over this man.....he is cheating regularly and in the most obvious ways....surely someone has told his wife?

I feel so sorry for the poor woman, and tbh it is making me feel uncomfortable in the level of trust I put in my neighbours here....

Hawest1 Thu 03-Dec-15 21:35:23

That sounds very like where I stay!!
It's surprising what the town can know without the people involved actual

VoyageOfDad Thu 03-Dec-15 21:35:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hawest1 Thu 03-Dec-15 21:36:19

Posted too soon.
actually knowing.
Or the wife may know & may want to turn a blind eye?
Either way people like him need a good boot!

mincebloodypie Thu 03-Dec-15 21:40:43

No pampas grass, I do know someone with a hot tub though!

AnyFucker Thu 03-Dec-15 21:47:40

could you tell his wife ?

don't buy into it...being a twat isn't compulsory

ohtheholidays Thu 03-Dec-15 22:38:19

Do you think maybe she knows and they have an open relationship?

I don't think I'd be comfortable living where everyone was so open about everyone else sleeping around whilst in a supposed serious relationship.

Him groping you is well out of order I'd report the bastatard to the Police if he trys it again.

Hawest1 Thu 03-Dec-15 22:53:54

Maybe mention it to the wife? Either she will turn round & say she knows or she will be upset but eventually thank u for it.

TaintForTheLikesOfWe Fri 04-Dec-15 04:22:54

I am from an apparently sleepy little village. Once I was old enough to start going to the pub and getting to know the locals I was shocked by the truth of the sub text. I can laugh about it now but.....
I assume the village I live in now is like it but have not scratched below the surface here, I prefer my fairytale image to stay in place a while longer.

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