One of my good friends has always been extremely high maintenance (IMO). I just don't know if I can take it anymore and starting wondering if her extreme reactions are justified? Is it me or is she just too much? We have known each other for over 10 years now and are very close but sometimes I just feel suffocated by her reactions to me when I slightly don't behave exactly as she would like me to.
We are both women (30 yr old) and she gets very irate if I don't reply to her messages straight away.
She text me yesterday (a motivational picture quote) At the time I was getting my nails done so couldn't really reply and then it slipped my mind for the rest of the day.
She text me again at 9.30pm at night when I was driving home so I read the message (which she could see I had done) but I couldn't reply again as I was driving and made a mental note to respond once home. Ten minutes later I get a passive aggressive text. Something along the lines of 'ok no worries chat soon'. I apologised and told her sorry it completely slipped my mind to reply earlier and I was driving just now which was why I didn't respond straight away, no big deal type thing.
She replied 'ok shall I respond now or maybe wait a few hours like you do?'. I told her I'm not interested in having this convo and that she's being silly- it was a mistake, that I wasn't intentionally trying to upset her and said I was sorry. And she told me I was being really mean not replying all day so I suggested we talk later when she feels better. The response was 'Yeah but you probably won't respond so what's the point'. I just said 'fine suit yourself but you're being ridiculous' and then I get the 'oh wow thanks for being such a great best friend' etc 'nice to see you're bothered' and other words to that effect. Then blocked me! I despair!
How would you deal with someone like this? We seem to have the same argument over and over again and it's driving me absolutely bonkers! Should I be trying to cater to her needs more or does she need to chill out?? Any words of wisdom on how to deal with someone like this? or AIBU? xx
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High maintanence friend driving me crazy! Is it me??
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