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Has he cheated?

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AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:33:33

I might be being paranoid and think an outsiders perspective might help.

Been with boyfriend for a year, looking at moving in together next year. He was out Friday night.

Mentioned he got home at 2.30. He drunkenly sent me a text message around 3am. I received another message on FB PM at around 6am to tell me he'd lost his phone.

Saturday afternoon I get a text message from his phone saying he was just up and that he had found it in his house.

All sounds fairly straight forward but it's been niggling me. He sent the message saying he'd lost his phone yet he must have text me from his house at 3am if he got in at 2.30am so surely he would know it was there somewhere. He said he stayed up for a couple of hours after getting home (does anyone do this at 3am hmm ) and went to bed after the message at 6am. I spent Saturday with him and honestly he didn't seem like he had only had 3.5 hours sleep.

Now call me paranoid but having lived with a cheating ex I have in my own head pieced together an alternative story. I used to do this with ex all the time and usually my gut was right.

I don't want to share my theory but I am interested to see if anyone else comes to the same conclusion or maybe I am being paranoid.

Kelsoooo Mon 30-Nov-15 18:35:08

Sounds like he was just hammered to me.

AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:36:03

Yeah could be. And I could be just jumping to conclusions because of past experiences.

pocketsaviour Mon 30-Nov-15 18:38:13

I think it just sounds like he was stupidly drunk (which I don't find attractive, but that wasn't your question!)

WishItWasSunday Mon 30-Nov-15 18:41:14

He just sounds like he got very drunk. Is this the only time you've been suspicious?
Do you think he was somewhere else at the first text, left his phone there and then got it back by the afternoon?

AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:43:12

He doesn't drink that much. I could drink him under the table two and three times over and still be able to walk in a straight line so it's not that unbelievable that he'd be that hammered on a big night out.

Thanks. Starting to feel like I'm just being incredibly silly.

AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:44:32

Yes wishit, that was what I was thinking. And that the FB message was when he got in and didn't want me to wake up and reply to the 2.30am message which would show on his phone.

Crinkle77 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:44:39

It sounds to me like he was just pissed and lost his phone. I think you are being paranoid.

AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:50:07

Yeah it's the first time I've been suspicious. I guess the conversation on the Sat was what sparked my suspicions. He was saying things like last night made me realise I'm so glad I have you, I couldn't do the single life like x, y and z (who he was out with). My ex used to come away with stuff like that when actually he had been with his other girlfriend.

He used to make u elaborate stories about people that he had met while working away when infact he was living with another woman and her son at the same time as living with me.

It just rang alarm bells because I felt like I'd heard similar before. Poor guy, he's probably just being nice and I'm secretly piecing together a night that didn't happen. blush

WishItWasSunday Mon 30-Nov-15 18:50:44

I can understand you being worried after your previous partner, but here I really don't see any evidence for him cheating. Don't let your experience with the nasty ex ruin this, it sounds like a good thing.

Whythehellnot Mon 30-Nov-15 18:51:15

So he just lost his phone around the house? That's possible, I've done that sober.

I can't work out what scenario you have imagined. Could it be he didn't want to be contactable so pretended he lost his phone?

AmIAmntI Mon 30-Nov-15 18:58:52

Ok the general consensus is paranoid. Glad I got some outsiders points of view. Now maybe need to work on my own trust issues that I thought were long gone but clearly can rear it's ugly head from time to time.

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