Nc regular here who just needs to vent
My husband is, on the outside, Mr Perfect. He's caring, housetrained, funny, looks after the kids... But behind closed doors he's anything but.
He ignores me in the home
Sulks when he doesn't get his own way
Sulks if we are doing something he doesn't want to do
Refuses to have any form of sexual contact unless it's on his terms. If I turn him down he sulks. If I try it on I get a look of disgust and a blunt no. Our sex life consists of a weekly peck on the cheek and actual sex once every 4-6 weeks.
He is 'self employed' but in reality he brings no money in
He bitches at me for doing the slightest thing wrong - such as putting the post on the dinner table and leaving it there more than a couple of hours saying I'm lazy and inconsiderate (I work full time and am the only person bringing money in)
He throws anything older than a few months away, considering it rubbish. This included my external hard drive full of photos from before we met and of my dc when they were young. Irreplaceable things.
Refuses to spend time with my friends and family and sulks when I won't spend time with his chauvinistic father
I could go on but I won't. I'm broken and need to leave but I'm disabled and rely on him to do the big stuff I can't do. I've tried to tell him I want to leave but felt physically sick at the thought and couldn't go through with it. I'm so depressed. So lonely. Feel so ugly and unwanted. I can't stay but I can't leave it's a horrible limbo I'm in.
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I've finally broken
Embarrassedbymylife · 29/11/2015 10:33
You need to see a solicitor and start legal proceedings. As his wife you will very likely be entitled to half of everything including the house (regardless of whether the house is in his name) and half his pension. You may also be entitled to stay in the house until your children are 18. Do not under any circumstances leave the house until you get legal advice.
There is a way out, but you need to be strong.
Be brave and phone a solicitor tomorrow. 
I know you have namechanged OP but I recognise your story and think you have posted about it before?
I doubt the advice here will change - you need to get legal advice and get shot of this horrible man. He isn't just affecting and damaging you is he? It's your DC as well. Is that not enough to spur you into action? I suspect you will fare so much better once you are rid of him.
Please think of yourself and your DCs and make that call tomorrow.
Don't worry about all the jobs he does, there is always another way of getting stuff done. The garden and cleaning are small stuff compared to his behaviour.
How old are your DC's? Could they help around the home with house work? When you don't have him to subsidize you could probably afford a gardener and a handy man to do the things you can't.
You can do this OP
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