Hello.
I am married 14 years (tog 17).
2 kids, aged 11 and 8. Eldest has SEN.
Marriage not been in good shape for a long time.
(H has his own bedroom, comes in from work and doesn't even acknowledge me, goes off to bed without saying anything to me or kids etc). H doesn't cope well with stress and due to a number of factors (£, housing, school, my health) there has been stress for a long long time. Neither of us have supportive family. I am aware of this and large nc, he is still in FOG with his. It is my first marriage and his second (his first wife divorced him).
Whenever the 'shit hits the fan' re life, H says he will leave as 'I make his life a misery'. He has left a few times, for a few days each time. There isn't enough money to leave properly so he comes back. I have been considering re-locating for some time as the kids aren't doing well or at all happy in school and the house is too expensive and would be difficult to manage on my own (would need to sell it though, and nothing selling around here). I know I probably 'should' stay in the house, but I really don't want to, for so many reasons. So, it seems wise for me and kids to re-locate. H says he won't relocate with us but will 'visit at weekends'. Due to a number of circs it is hard to find another place to live (I'd need HB and finding a private landlord to accept is hard).
H is increasingly impatient with this. I viewed a rental y'day. I don't know if they'd accept HB yet. H quizzed me last night as I was trying to cook as to 'when you are going?'. When I didn't give a date (and asked him to stop swearing at me) he said in that case he is going 'this weekend'.
Great :( We are supposed to be having a 'Birthday Weekend' for him (he's 50 today) so the kids will notice any changes of plans. Just before Christmas too. He picks his moments (he's done this sort of thing before).
Sorry for whinge - have difficult meeting with school this arvo too, so could have done without him pulling this today (he ALWAYS does this when my back is absolutely against the wall).
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H 'is leaving' (again...)
OldGreyCat · 25/11/2015 12:47
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