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My husband don't want me around :(

(19 Posts)
rubolina88 Tue 24-Nov-15 18:46:53

Hi everyone,

Probably it's not a big problem bit I really feel sad after my husband told me that he don't want me to go at the event that he is organising.
I'm in maternity leave and my baby is now 3 months and w moved recently out from london in a small town with not a lot to do, so my and my little jj we are always here at home alone while my husband is going to work and train (he is a dancer and youth worker).He is now organising an event where I helped him, starting from creating the flyer, all the advertisement and much more.yesterday he told me that is better if I'm not coming at the event.
I can't understand why sad

Hillfarmer Tue 24-Nov-15 19:12:47

Er.. I think you deserve a proper reason from him. Not just 'it is better' if you don't come. I'm a bit shocked. What possible reason could be good enough?

I think he should be proud that you want to come out and support him.

rubolina88 Tue 24-Nov-15 19:21:33

Well...he told me that its his first event and he want to be focus on it...like I'm a baby to take care of!

TattieHowkerz Tue 24-Nov-15 19:37:25

Is it a social event or work event? If he is working, it is fair enough to not want you there.

If it is a social thing, or something where partners are invited, it seems out of order.

sugar21 Tue 24-Nov-15 19:40:02

Is the event socially related?

pinkyredrose Tue 24-Nov-15 19:41:55

Just go anyway? He's not your keeper.

spudlike1 Tue 24-Nov-15 19:43:05

Is he nervous about it being successful?
I still think you should be invited , maybe reassure him that you will fine and he won't need to worry about you .You understand that his priorities will be making the event a success.
Can you offer to do something to help ? a small task help serve drinks maybe or take toys and help entertain other people's children.

slicedfinger Tue 24-Nov-15 19:43:36

Perhaps he is worried about going well and concerned that you and your beautiful baby will just be too distracting for him!?

rubolina88 Tue 24-Nov-15 19:54:25

Thanks for your replies smile
He is the organiser of the dance auditions event...so I guess is a social event...I just wanted to be tgere and support him and help him just in case he needs it...and it's happened already in the past.

gamerchick Tue 24-Nov-15 20:05:00

Tell him you're going, he can't stop you and it sounds like you could do with a change of scenery.

ALaughAMinute Tue 24-Nov-15 20:09:20

Would you take the baby if you went or would you be able too get someone to babysit?

It might be a nice opportunity for you to get out as you're not getting out much. I think you should tell him you're going!

ALaughAMinute Tue 24-Nov-15 20:09:57

*be able to

rubolina88 Tue 24-Nov-15 20:15:15

I wanted to leave jj with my sis in law,and yesterday I asked him...what you think if we leaving jj with your sis?so I can help you better and he replied...well probably is better if you staying home...my heart just collapsed in that moment.
I don't know if I need to just go...I don't want to be like I'm forcing something

Morganly Tue 24-Nov-15 20:24:17

Yeah, that's hurtful, especially as you've had a big input with the publicity etc. I think I'd tell him I'm hurt and ask him to explain exactly why it would be "better".

febreeze Tue 24-Nov-15 21:11:54

He doesn't want you to come to his work? He isn't there socialising by the sound of it- he is at work?

Or is this something that he is doing on a voluntary basis?

FredaMayor Wed 25-Nov-15 12:29:17

OP, I think it's very odd that an event that you helped organise is being forbidden to you by your husband. You are an adult and can do as you please so I think you should go the event because it might be quite revealing.

Ataraxy Wed 25-Nov-15 12:34:11

So he wanted your help to set it all up but doesn't want to share the credit? I wouldn't be helping him again in future.

something2say Wed 25-Nov-15 13:04:13

I can understand where he's coming from. When I am anxious about something I have to do, I much prefer to fly solo. It's not that I don't love my friends or partner, its more that I need to focus on my own behaviour and interactions without worrying about someone else being there....

Joysmum Wed 25-Nov-15 13:58:23

I'd ask him why he thought it was better you didn't go with him.

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