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Have I done something wrong?

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LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 12:48:58

Some advice sought. I've dipped into the world of OLD. Met - although not in person, yet- whom I think a nice gentleman!

He's been working abroad last couple of weeks and we have exchanged emails with the intent to meet. Last night I receive the following;

'Hello hello!

Thats me back, jeez that seemed like a long flight! So I might be through in Xxx next wed/thurs/fri.. how would this evening / Mon or Tues work for you?

Hope you've had a good weekend?

Here's my mobile... Xx


As the suggestion was for last night/ tomorrow potentially, I what's app (bad cellular signal at home) - at 5pm yesterday... No response, despite reading /showing his pic as profile pic (thus no doubt of right number...)

Oh wise ones of MN, what should I now do? Nothing? Email back?

Doesn't make sense... But he increasingly looks flaky!

Rhubarbarian Mon 23-Nov-15 12:50:48

I think it depends what you said in your whatsapp reply to him.

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 12:56:19

Here it is verbatim;

'Evening, x. I was going to suggest this eve as per your email if that still works for you ? Lady D.'

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 13:41:29

If he is really interested in seeing you and taking you out then he will contact you again. If he is just seeing which of the women he is interested in will shag him first then you won't.

firesidechat Mon 23-Nov-15 13:45:46

I think your reply sounds like you are arranging a meeting with a work colleague rather than a date.

But I haven't dated for decades and never down online, so I may be way off the mark.

firesidechat Mon 23-Nov-15 13:47:45

done online

Thinking about my post again, I'm now doubting that it had anything to do with it, unless he is very sensitive.

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 14:04:44

Thanks, I was trying to be cool by not being too full on?! Eek if it came across as too business.

I'm perplexed and just emailed him .. Hope I've not made a mistake? Equally hope there's no games!

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:07:25

No don't email him again. Why would you do that when you have already sent one. If he is into you he will contact you and make firm arrangements. When a man is into you, you will no about it and have no doubts.

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:07:49

Know.... That should read.

firesidechat Mon 23-Nov-15 14:08:58

Honestly I'm the last person who should give anyone advice on OLD and I'm sure some one will be along soon to set your mind at rest.

All I will say is that it's sometimes a harsh environment and a tough hide seems to be required.

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:09:28

Your original email was not too business like, it was cool and relaxed.

ALaughAMinute Mon 23-Nov-15 14:09:46

I think you're overthinking it. Just wait for him to contact you. Relax.

mumblebumble Mon 23-Nov-15 14:10:20

So he suggested you meet that night, you said yes and he read it but didn't reply? Move on, sadly.

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:10:33

Agreed * Laugh* smile

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:12:07

As I said before, he may have many of you on the go and was after a booty call/shag. He may not be an international jet setter either

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Mon 23-Nov-15 14:16:49

So he messaged you last night, wanting to meet up last night, giving you hardly any notice, and when you replied saying "yes ok", he never got back to you despite seeing your message?

Sorry, I think he probably has a few women on the go and someone else also agreed to meet up with him last night.

wheelsonabus Mon 23-Nov-15 14:17:08

He might have fallen asleep yesterday eve and not had a chance to get back to you today? That's the only reason I can see that he hasn't replied. Would have thought he'd got back to you this morning as he sounded pretty keen wanting to meet up with you the eve he got back.

You'll just have to wait for him to get back to you (if you are sure he got your message yesterday) and see what he says. If he can give you a plausible reason why he didn't get back to you last night then arrange another date. If it sounds fishy, then maybe you'll have to decline.

firesidechat Mon 23-Nov-15 14:20:59

Told you I was wrong. The other explanations sound much more likely, sadly.

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 14:21:53

Thanks all for replies.

Yes mumble, that's what I don't get; he seemed keen, so I text him hoping with schedules we could have made last night work. He didn't reply?! It was read .. I thought at the least he could have sent a note by now regardless?!

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Mon 23-Nov-15 14:24:19

He knows now that you're quite 'up for' a last minute meet up. So do totally expect to get another e-mail/text asking if you're free that night.

If he was a good guy, and truly interested, he'd be wanting to make plans in advance to ensure that you're available, not dropping it on you at the last minute when he's at a loose end.

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 14:24:19

I stupidly sent an email 30 mins ago in response to his last email yesterday ., welcomed him back and suggested that drink this eve...

At least if he doesn't reply now I know he's not worth it and no misfire in tech comms etc confused

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:25:28

He was maybe only keen for sex and he had a better offer. Sorry but men who want to see you and are interested in you make dates in advance not last minute.

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 14:25:18

Dr google... He have me several options. It was I who suggested that eve on text vs tonight/ tomorrow because of my schedule, so doesn't really seem that way to me.

I could of course be completely wrong!

LadyofDunedin Mon 23-Nov-15 14:25:54

* gave not have

AlwaysBeYourself Mon 23-Nov-15 14:27:06

Have you met up at all in real life yet?

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