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New partner/nightmare exp

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Claraoswald36 Sun 22-Nov-15 20:18:37

Just that really. Partner of 6 months recently introduced to dc. All going brilliantly but exp (dc father) raging about it and very abusive toward me because I have done this. Abusive enough for me to feel anxious/scared about drop off/pick ups.
I don't know what the answer is but I need to talk about it sad

pocketsaviour Sun 22-Nov-15 21:05:11

Was your ex abusive when you were together?

Seeyounearertime Sun 22-Nov-15 21:09:41

Age of DC?
Possible to have Ex park outside and kids gonout and you dot see him or maybe you park outside and let the DC go to door?

When my gfs Ex plays the cockhead she just minimises all contact with him until his head dislodges from his arse.

Claraoswald36 Mon 23-Nov-15 16:11:28

3 and 6 :-(

spankingnewme Mon 23-Nov-15 16:37:10

Sounds awful, he has no right to do this, what's his reasons? Obviously jealous but what does he say his reasons are?

Claraoswald36 Mon 23-Nov-15 19:04:34

Thanks for the reply. He feels he has a right to know everything about my private life. And everyone in it. I have refused to discuss this with him hence the kicking off all the time

RunRabbitRunRabbit Mon 23-Nov-15 19:18:51

The answer is to ignore it. He can shout about it all he wants. It has no effect on you. Or at least make him believe that.

Can you have someone else do handover of the children?

Actually, I would record his behaviour at handover, if he were abusive to me in front of the children I would tell him the children can't go with him when he is in such an uncontrolled aggressive state and stop the contact. Go back in, lock the door, call the police if necessary and show them the recording of his abuse.

Claraoswald36 Mon 23-Nov-15 19:47:01

Thanks that's good advice

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