not sure where to start, I am a single mum to 2 teens, my mum moved 250 miles away this summer. her partner has offered to pay for me and the dc's to visit them over Christmas as a Christmas present to my mum. as visiting each other is not in our usual ability to finance.
My boyfriend(how I hate that term at this age) who I have been with for 3 years has no family in our area so I feel guilty leaving him alone. On previous Christmas's that we have shared together things were ok for year 1 as we were only just dating and I invited him to join my family Christmas so he was not alone. Next Christmas we were a more established couple and he had his son join us for christmas day. Last Christmas his son was with his mum for Christmas and his refused to open his presents with my family(and id not explain tik weeks afterwards that he wanted to wait until his son was with him to do presents)and was generally distant with all visitors on Christmas day but grumpy with the same response on boxing day when his son was with us. there was no previous agreement re how we would celebrate Christmas.
This year we have made no arrangements as yet.. As above I have been offered to go away with my dc to my dm for Christmas. I would love to take my dc to my dm but feel guilty in leaving my bf behind.. I do not want to take my bf with me as he caused me upset last Christmas as he would not think of anyone but himself
In summary, I would love to take me and my dc to see my mum over xmas without feeling guilty about leaving my bf behind. However I do not want to take my bf to my mums for Christmas as he has form for being an asshole
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Christmas dilemma (sorry long)
Stoneagemum · 21/11/2015 22:36
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