...when they say they don't want to stay over with their Dad? (We're separated, obvs.)
Ex and I get on pretty well, most of the time. He sees a lot of DS (6) and always has, since we parted 4 years ago.
But for the last few months, DS has been consistently saying, he doesn't want to stay overnight with his Dad.
He still does, but we have had lots of tearful phone calls, saying he wants to come home. And saying in advance that he doesn't want to go.
I've subtly quizzed him about why, and I'm sure there are no worrying reasons. But Ex lives in a big, communal house - and it's just not very homely.
He's also a bit of a Mummy's boy and loves his kisses and cuddles, especially at bedtime. His Dad isn't half as tactile as I am.
He's an eloquent and perceptive little boy and says he doesn't want Daddy to know this "as it will upset him". He says he still wants to see his Dad and do fun stuff together, he just doesn't want to stay over - and has asked me now (repeatedly) to talk to his Dad about it.
So at what point do I start listening to him and telling him he doesn't need to go?
Ex says he's "fine" once he's there and is just "putting it on."
Clearly I don't want to jeopardise his relationship with his Dad - but also don't want DS growing up thinking that he doesn't have any say in what he does?! Help!
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Bloodybloodyhell · 19/11/2015 22:38
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