I've been married for almost nine years and it may sound strange but I feel like I'm only just starting to get a handle on some of the problems we have. Firstly my oh would say we don't have any problems and I keep harping on about the past. It's true when we argue I just can't help but recall incidences where same thing has already happened yet we say we will park stuff but frankly it's not that easy. My oh is not a great communicator in the sense that I think he doesn't see the point in talking about stuff. An apology both sides and move on is the usual course of events. I guess what I'm concluding these days is that he's just so non emotional.