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FlaminSnowball Wed 18-Nov-15 08:19:07

My So called DP has left myself and My Ds - 8 (not his) completely in the shit.

We moved an hour away to move in with him changed schools etc. and I honestly thought this was it for life.

He's decided it's "not working" for him and basically dumped me out of the blue. We've only been here 8 weeks!!!

So now we need to start looking for somewhere to live etc but I'm heartbroken. I still love him and this is not what I want. How do I get past the wanting him to cut him out and move on?

My birthday is in 2 weeks and I was really looking forward to it and Christmas is the last thing I want to go through now :-(

TheHouseOnTheLane Wed 18-Nov-15 09:02:03

Is it his house or is it rented? What an arsehole he is OP sad

Is there anyone back home you can live with for a bit?

FlaminSnowball Wed 18-Nov-15 09:17:02

It's his house not rented :-(

My family live an hour away, he watched me sell all of my belongings to integrate into this house!!

He's such a selfish idiot.

FlaminSnowball Sat 21-Nov-15 12:13:48

Anyone else? I currently hate him.

Does anyone know what my rights are to live there until I have the money to move?

hussty Sat 21-Nov-15 12:30:21

Hi Falming Snowball.

My "D"P did this to me.

DS was also 8 or 9 when he did it.

I had also moved when he did it (10 hours not 1)

I was also living in his house and he left me and DS totally in the shit.

Only he did it to me after 5 years. With absolutely zero warning. I got 72 hours to be out with child. After 5 years. And believe me - no problems in the relationship at all!

I know how awful you feel right now, but believe me, best to do it after 8 weeks!

He's a seflish prick. You were lucky to escape.

pocketsaviour Sat 21-Nov-15 13:14:10

Bloody hell, what a spineless, cowardly wanker. He must have known it wasn't going to work, and just stood and said nothing while you uprooted your whole life. Fucker.

Would moving back to your previous area be an option, are there any family members who could give you a place to stay temporarily?

FlaminSnowball Sat 21-Nov-15 17:17:25

Wow I can't believe this has happened to others! What's wrong with these men?

I could probably go back to my old area but I still need to save deposit and replace all the stuff I sold. My DS would like to stay at this school though if possible.

It's such a mess. He doesn't even see what he's done. He thinks I should be grateful that's he's letting us stay here. As he reminded me this morning it's his house I should be careful. Told him not to threaten me and leave me alone. I'll be here as long as I need.

Marilynsbigsister Sat 21-Nov-15 17:21:26

This is awful OP. How long have you been seeing each other ?

TokenGinger Sat 21-Nov-15 17:24:48

What a tosser!

FlaminSnowball Sat 21-Nov-15 18:02:57

4 years!!! I'm just in shock really. I was distraught. It now I'm just really really angry!

Whythehellnot Sat 21-Nov-15 18:46:22

Well I wouldn't stay 'as long as I need.' I think that's putting too much strain on you all. Id be off as soon as I could.

Could you rely on family or friends for a bit while you save up?

It's a really awful situation but you need out of it straight away.

FlaminSnowball Sat 21-Nov-15 18:57:45

He works away so he's basically just not coming home so I don't have to see him which helps.

My family live too far away so I can't maintain my sons school. I work full time too so it's all very messy at the moment.

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