I have DCs with my ex-husband who's older than me (by nearly 20 yrs) and was abusive. I had my first DC at 22. Gave up work when I got pregnant and was sahm until exh and I split.
I've been seeing a new man for 3 months. Haven't told him anything about the abuse in my marriage. All he knows is that my ex doesn't have contact with DCs.
Yesterday, talking about work, children and childcare, he said to me 'Blimey you were really quite young when you had children did you actually want to have them when you did?' or words to that effect. He also asked if I never felt I'd missed out on just having fun.
I'm watching out for red flags all the time and I can't decide whether that was a crappy judgemental thing to say or whether it's just he touched a nerve as my ex did push me to get preggers asap, and I felt on the spot.
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Am I reading too much into this?
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Superfluousss · 17/11/2015 20:10
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