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I think it's time to walk away...

(5 Posts)
Bigbadmamma Tue 17-Nov-15 07:24:32

My relationship has ran its course. We have been together for 3 years and have a high needs 5 month old baby. My family have caused massive issues for me in the past year that I've had difficulty dealing with which has had a big impact on our relationship.

I've tried talking with him to make things worse but he won't discuss anything. The resentment towards me is clear.

I've made my mind up about leaving but my problem is, where do I go? How do I go with no money?

I have no savings, no family or friends to stay with. My car is in DPs name and paid for by him. My maternity pay doesn't last 2 weeks after bills etc. I feel trapped.

wonderingsoul Tue 17-Nov-15 08:06:23

I am sorry your going through such a bad time.

Practical things you need to do is go and vist your council office and see if they can re house you or at least help you with a deposit for a house.

Are you claiming child tax and child benifits. Maybe even working tax but I don't know if you can get that if on maternity pay.

Also see a doctor, I'm not saying your depressed but they may be able to help with councling to help you through.

Most importantly be kind to your self. Do you have any friends you can get to rally round?

I promise you it will get better and you'll be happy gain.

Bigbadmamma Tue 17-Nov-15 08:17:11

I'm going to make an appointment with the council this week and going to the doctors on Wednesday. I won't be able to return to work after my maternity ends if I'm on my own due to the hours I'm required to work and they refused my flexible working request.

DP is a good man but we just aren't working anymore.

Bigbadmamma Tue 17-Nov-15 08:18:29

I also only have three friends who are all high flyers and they live thousands of miles away or work away so feeling a bit lonely too. Missing have them around for a chat and a wine

FourForYouGlenCoco Tue 17-Nov-15 08:35:34

Have just been reading your other thread. I'm not encouraging you to stay no matter what, but if you had a strong relationship before your baby was born, I'd be wary of making any big decisions at the moment. My DD was hard work as a baby and it really pushed my relationship, but we stuck it out and now we're back on track. A 5 month old high needs baby does not create a good environment for making big, life changing decisions. Everything must feel insurmountable at the minute but it won't be like this forever. It would be horrible to get a year or so down the line and realise that you made a mistake.
Again, not saying that you should stay if there are genuine, long-term issues, but just be very sure it's the right thing for you.

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