Brief synopsis
Married, 2 DC's. About 3 months ago I found clear evidence (explicit) of his extramarital activities. Multiple infidelities including escorts. The only (slight) silver lining is that we hadn't been intimate for a while, I obviously wasn't floating his boat. It's transpired that he is a prolific liar, cheat and exceptionally manipulative. He's also incredibly narcissistic.
So I've tried to be incredibly amicable for the sake of the DC's. Have been flexible regarding access to children (although we now have a schedule in place) and am undertaking mediation.
How do I put this? He is taking the absolute piss at mediation?
However he's doing it cleverly. He claims he is unwell. Physically and now emotionally since the separation. The perception looking from the outside in is that this is an extremely fragile man who is taking the separation badly.
Quite frankly I couldn't give a hoot about him. I think he is an arch manipulator trying to stall a process just to be a pain in the arse.
My lawyer is waiting in the wings and I am in the verge of withdrawing from mediation. However my concern now is that any court process (especially given these emotional cards he is playing) will now be drawn out and expensive.
Does anyone have any experience of dealing with a personality of this type and extracting themselves from a personality like this? Preferably with minimal damage to DC's?
It's clear that he absolutely focussed on him, his world and his life. He has taken zero responsibility about the fact that he is here due to his actions.
Advice/ words of wisdom welcomed!
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Navigating separation from a prolific cheater
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TooSassy · 13/11/2015 16:25
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