I've got a lovely house, a lovely toddler, I'm fairly happy with my job, no money worries, I'm happy with the way I look and I've got just enough friends to fend off loneliness.
But I'm so unhappy in my marriage.
Firstly I'm not really that attracted to DH anymore (not sure if I ever was to be honest) although I do manage to get the fires burning every week or so, so thinks haven't completely dried up in the bedroom but it's not exactly brilliant.
DH is a lovely guy but I don't get much emotional warmth from him. It's always been something he really struggles with, possibly due to his upbringing. He puts so much more effort into his job and hobbies than he does our marriage, if he put as much passion into making me happy as he does with making his boss/colleagues happy, I'd probably be the happiest woman on the planet.
I long for emotional closeness and affection, if I get good attention from other men I find myself wishing I wasn't married. But I don't want to ruin our happy life, DH is a great dad and I look forward to him coming home on my days off so I can chat to him about our day. We've got to a point now where the chores are fairly evenly split, so that's not an issue. But we fight a lot, sometimes pretty badly in front of DS, and our marriage is just totally lacking in the emotional department. I feel like he makes no effort. But maybe I'm not making enough of an effort either?
Can things change? Is there anything I can do?
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Happy with everything in life apart from my shit marriage. Can it change?
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PurpleTreeFrog · 12/11/2015 10:43
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