Currently NC with DM and I am getting pressure from other families to reinstate it for the sake of my children.
DF died suddenly when I was a child, DM got married to stepfather in secret while we were at school and we were told over dinner when we got home. Several weeks later we were moved from Scotland to south England, away from our school, friends and family.
Shortly after our arrival, stepfather started sexually abusing me. I attempted to tell DM once but was brushed off and there was no culture for us to complain about his general bullying etc. He died when we were adults after we told our DM about the abuse and although she did eventually leave him, she still nursed him through cancer to the end.
Now I am a mother I can't bear to look at her. She has been a good mother since his death and everyone feels (wider family, DH is v supportive) I should leave things in the past, she claims she was taken in by him and is a 'victim too'.
I mentioned the wedding thing at work in passing today and my colleague was completely shocked that my DM would do that and it made me think they don't know the half of things and perhaps being NC is the right decision. No idea what is normal or reasonable anymore
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PippaFawcett · 11/11/2015 22:32
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