I've posted a couple of times over the last year about my now ex-DP. The MN support I got was invaluable.
We split in May and we have a 3yo DS who is with me most of the time. DS sees his dad every other weekend and overnight one night per week. On the whole this has worked out ok although exhausting for me as I do all drop offs and pick ups. Reason being ex-DP has a 9 yo from a previous relationship and there is a court order governing access to his DS. This involves him doing all drop offs/pick ups. If I didn't drop off my DS it would be practically difficult for DS to see him. I have been very accommodating because I want my darling DS to have a good relationship with his dad. It is also the only time off I get. I work nearly full time and no support nearby so really need the down time.
The issue now is that when I dropped DS off tonight he was breaking his heart and almost hysterical when I went to leave. This obviously upsets ex-DP who just said to me to take him home if he doesn't want to stay. This is him all over - he makes it all about him and makes out as if it's my DS's choice whether he stays. He's only 3!
I left with my DS as the situation was becoming very stressful and his DS was there so I didn't want to get into any kind of argument.
He did text later with an apology saying it just hurts him. He also said he fully appreciated all I do to let him see DS.
Why is my child so upset? Should I insist he stays? Or stop the overnights? He is very close to me - we are a little team and I adore him. Could it mean my DS just does not feel secure with his DF?
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Advice please - my DS won't stay with his dad.
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TinyDancer69 · 10/11/2015 23:05
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