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it's over. Please tell me I'll be alright and I'll get through this

(28 Posts)
Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 22:15:58

Just had a huge row with BF, been together what would have been a year tomorrow, I know it's not long but I honestly thought he was the one, we've been through so much together. But after what he's said tonight I'm not going crawling back to him. I don't think I've ever felt so hurt and raw, sat in my car in his driveway but I'm just not safe to drive I don't know what do. Please tell me I'm better off without the fucking moron.

PurpleWithRed Tue 10-Nov-15 22:17:33

You are absolutely fine on your own. Have a nice cry and lick your wounds, then Rise Above and be magnificent. flowers

Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 22:23:49

I knew I could rely on mumsnet but now you have made me cry even more!

RedMapleLeaf Tue 10-Nov-15 22:24:39

You will definitely be fine.

Deep breath, drive around the corner and have a good cry there.

Threefishys Tue 10-Nov-15 22:27:02

Have you been falling out through the year or was this a one off ?

Robotgirl Tue 10-Nov-15 22:27:09

I don't think I've ever felt so hurt and raw

This ^^

Life's too short to be with someone who makes you feel shit.
You will be ok. thanks

SurferJet Tue 10-Nov-15 22:29:35

Oh you poor thing (( hugs )) I'm so sorry you're going through this sad
Drive a few streets away & park there until you calm down.
You will be fine flowers

Inexperiencedchick Tue 10-Nov-15 22:32:33

flowers I'm sorry.

Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 22:36:48

Something happened a few months ago and I think I've known in the back of my mind i should have left him but everything's been fine since..even tonight we have had a lovely meal out to celebrate our anniversary as we're both working tomorrow night he literally went from fine to the angriest I've ever seen him in 5 minutes over something ridiculous

Threefishys Tue 10-Nov-15 22:39:16

Do you really believe its over?

Threefishys Tue 10-Nov-15 22:39:45

Or is it a heat of the moment thing

Handywoman Tue 10-Nov-15 22:42:58

Oh OP. You must feel betrayed by the way he was this evening. It's painful but when people show you who they are you can't close your eyes. You can't go back now. Reject the shit behaviour. Grow. Be strong. Do you have a RL bestie you can cry down the phone to or summon for s hug?

thanks you will mend and be better. Particularly for rejecting an inadequate man.

EllsTeeth Tue 10-Nov-15 22:46:33

Don't waste your time on someone who makes you feel shit. Life's too short. Drive round the corner, have a good cry, turn your music up loud. Then wipe away your tears, drive home (when you're safe) and pamper yourself. Wake up tomorrow and start afresh, take a little time to look after yourself and get fabulous again! When I look back and realise how much time and energy I wasted on guys who were no good for me it makes me so cross!!

Mishaps Tue 10-Nov-15 22:48:43

The most important thing is your own self-respect. You CAN do without him; and there really will be other fish out there in the wide wide ocean.

EllsTeeth Tue 10-Nov-15 22:48:53

Just read your last post. Sounds like you've had a lucky escape. A man who gets angry at the drop of a hat is NOT a keeper. There will be someone far better out there for you. Look after yourself flowers

Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 23:19:32

Omg cannot believe what has happened in the last half an hour. Started my car and went to leave as I pulled out his drive I saw a heap on the floor in his garden. Got out of car and ran up to the electric fence (which was separating us) I started screaming at him but no answer. I had to climb over the fence, shocking myself about 20 times in the process and found him covered in vomit and freezing cold, I think he must have been out there for the 40 minutes since I had left. I managed to wake him up but he was refusing to move, after 20 minutes ive managed to coaxed him inside and get him wrapped up but he hasn't stopped puking. I can't quite believe all that has just happened what am I meant to do now?!?

Threefishys Tue 10-Nov-15 23:40:43

Get off MN and probably call an ambulance

Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 23:45:14

I don't think I need to call an ambulance, he feels normal temp now and I took his temperature under his tongue and it was 37.3, he's been drinking so I think that's why he's been sick, he's stopped now and is asleep in bed (in recovery position with a bucket on floor next to his head. I'm just going to stay up all night and keep an eye on him

donajimena Tue 10-Nov-15 23:46:25

Id call an ambulance if this happened

Underdogsbollocks Tue 10-Nov-15 23:53:21

Okay I called 999 ambulance over 30 mins away but operator said if his temp is okay and he's asleep he should be okay so didn't want to send an ambulance but a note has been made so if I call back they will send an ambulance immediately

Epilepsyhelp Tue 10-Nov-15 23:59:27

You were right in the first place op, if he's warm and breathing 999 is really no necessary, good that you got some advice but 111 next time.

Try and remember when you've nursed him through this he's still been a dick and really hurt you though..

Underdogsbollocks Wed 11-Nov-15 00:01:30

That's what's going to be hardest part, lying here next to him in bed and I feel nothing but love for him but I know I need to leave him sad

Im0gen Wed 11-Nov-15 00:02:48

So he was completely sober when you left him ? But within 40 mins he drank so much that he was vomiting and lying on the grass freezing cold ?

That sounds very odd. What do you think happened ?

Underdogsbollocks Wed 11-Nov-15 00:09:47

No he had been drinking when I left, he rarely drinks but had 5 pints I didn't realise that would make him so drunk!

Underdogsbollocks Wed 11-Nov-15 00:11:49

Sorry I didn't make everything clear in my first few posts I was crying and not thinking much but I've had a chance to calm down now, made myself a cuppa and preparing for a looong night sad

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