I have a friend who I have known for well over 10 years. She is a great friend, has helped me out a lot financially over the years when I found myself in difficulty.
I have also helped her out with accommodation, a shoulder to cry on etc.
Anyway, this friend is a lot older than me, she is 60 and I am 33. I don't think this is relevant at all but worth mentioning.
Over the last couple of years my friend has become increasingly difficult - or I have only just noticed it!
One Christmas I invited her over because she was on her own - her Mother had recently passed away. I cancelled all pland and asked her to stay with me for the whole of Christmas. We bought each other gifts and I made dinner.
I cooked all morning with no help from her (I didnt ask for help), and she would interupt me at regular intervals to ask me to bring her another glass of wine.
An hour or so later she asked if I was sure the Turkey wasn't cooked yet, she came over and inspected it and told me it was overcooked and proceeded to take it off my hands.
She went back into the living room and cotinued to browse on her ipad and sup on her wine. I asked her to come help laying the table and as she took the plates from my hand she said in a shocked voice "you haven't warmed them??". This pissed me off.
Its the same whenever I invite her over for a weekend for a few drinks. I am expected to pick her up as she doesn't drive (this part is not a problem). I then am asked to bring drinks etc to her, cook food the next day, and ensure I am up early in the morning to take her home as she doesn't like hanging around.
Last weekend me and my partner asked her if she wanted to pop into a large retail store before going home (she doesnt get out much and has a bad leg) and she said yes.
10 minutes into the shop and she text to say she was by our car and needed the loo so we had to leave our shopping to take her home.
This weekend we are going to the theatre (her, me and my dp) and my dp wants to make an evening of it, nothing too much just a meal and a few drinks but she is reluctant. "what people usually do when they go to the theatre is go straight there any maybe a drink or two after" Well fuck me, I want a drink and meal before theatre and a drink after but of course she is staying at my house so we will once again have to follow her lead.
I dont want to go NC but I am seriously considering putting a stop to our social events! Am I a crap friend?
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ScribblerOnTheRoof · 03/11/2015 14:39
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