I have never been unfaithful to my husband but I have to say that I regularly fantasize about having sex with a man I met 16 years ago, when I was already in a relationship with my now husband. When I masturbate I think of him, and it's just beautiful/amazing.
Our sex life is not great at the moment due to both being too tired and most of the time in pyjamas or lounging clothes for any spark to start. I love my husband, I just don't feel like having sex with him most of the time. He's a nice person, but I find it hard to feel sexy around him or to find him sexy. He's a bit scruffy at home and doesn't shower as much as I think he needs too when he's at home.
I've talked to him thousand times about the scruffiness and the BO, and been very direct and told him what I want, but I guess it's not my place to be constantly asking him what to do or when to have a shower. He's very stubborn and refuses to do things if I ask him to. So it's a no win situation.
I feel bad sometimes that the best sex I'm having is a fantasy, with the idea of a man I fell in love years ago and have never seen since then. Is that infidelity? Is that normal or am I going mad?
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autumnleaves123 · 02/11/2015 16:02
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