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pinktips · 01/11/2015 23:33

Earlier today partner and I were trying to work something out and involved a lot of googling on his phone. He handed it over to me on a couple of occasions and on one occasion as I was typing a search term, a recent search for "adult works" came up. Thought it was an odd term but forgot until just now. Google it and it is an online escort database searchable by area! What the frig do I do??? He is going away for work for the week in a few hours, don't think I can hold it that long!! Anyone still up and any words of wisdom??

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notapizzaeater · 01/11/2015 23:36

Have yiu chance to swipe his phone before he goes ?

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pinktips · 01/11/2015 23:39

I don't know the pin. He handed it to me unlocked. I'm not normally a snooper and didn't think twice at the time so i suspect it is still on there, as didn't raise suspicion. So if I confront him and ask to look again I expect it to pop up.

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Tapirs · 01/11/2015 23:40

Is it something he'd have to register for? Can you find out if he's registered?

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pinktips · 01/11/2015 23:41

Not sure, I'll look now, but from my brief look at the site I don't think you do.

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WillCrossThatBridge · 01/11/2015 23:42

Since he was not protective of his phone, I'd go "emm, why were you searching for adult works on Google?" and watch his response.
Watch out for over-defensiveness!

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pinktips · 01/11/2015 23:44

He can but I've no way of searching for him if he is a member.

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pinktips · 01/11/2015 23:45

That's what i thought willcrossthatbridge.

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pinktips · 02/11/2015 01:46

Confronted him calmly and he said a contractor on a site had mentioned that the site exists, he said he couldn't believe it, so searched for it. Finding the concept of it a bit far fetched apparently. But true enough it exists. He said I could go through his history and he openly offered it up. There was the search engine history and one page (the website front page) and that was it. So it all tallies! Am calm and rational and canhand on hheart say I believe him, no niggles or suspicious behaviour/vibes. Thanks for the lightening reactions ladies at such a late time!

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WillCrossThatBridge · 02/11/2015 01:48

Glad to hear it, PinkTips - all sounds plausible.

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