Hi, first post in this forum :)
I was just a wondering whether anyone has any experience of doing family therapy or similar with an abusive parent?
I've been nc with my parents for just over a year and have ignored various communications since then, but now my mum has emailed to ask if I would consider family therapy. I've been asking for that since I was 15, so I got hoovered back in and replied saying that I might, and asked if she would consider individual therapy first. She's ignored that question entirely and said that she wants me to meet with a family therapist first and explain what's gone wrong in our relationship, then she'll meet with the them and discuss what I've said. She's said that the therapist could pass on anything I don't want to tell her directly.
In the surface it seems like a huge step forward, but I'm not sure it is. It feels a bit like 'you tell the therapist your side and I'll tell mine and we'll let them decide who's right'. I wrote her a long email last year explaining how I felt so she's not clueless.
We live four hours apart and ive got a 10 month old, so it's a big commitment for me to go and do this. Is it really unreasonable to ask her to have a few sessions of individual therapy first to show me she's serious about change?
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Withgraceinmyheart · 01/11/2015 20:55
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