Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.


(13 Posts)
lolaflores Sat 31-Oct-15 14:17:28

I have not had a drink in about 3 years. However, the last few days I have had an overwhelming desire for anything. The only thing that stops me is the memory of hangovers. I am incapable of just having one, hence my abstinence. This has been going on for a week or so.
Just a little help please

akaWisey Sat 31-Oct-15 14:24:13

I'm dry, almost a year.

Don't do it. Don't open yourself up to the self-loathing you know you'll feel if you take a drink. There are loads of folk here who understand what it's like to be where you are now.

Whatever is making the temptation to drink rear it's head it can't be any worse than the consequences of drinking, can it?

Please don't do it OP.

Turvytopsy Sat 31-Oct-15 14:30:16

Hi lola

I'm not one of the people from the dry threads but I do know how you are feeling. I have been sober for 15 months. You are doing brilliantly.

I am usually ok as like you its one drink with me that leads to many. If I abstain altogether I'm fine.

A few weeks ago I did have a blip though, just so wanted a drink. I found carrying a bottle of water to sip at was helpful and anything to distract myself. I cleared out the under stairs cupboard etc.

I know it's not particularly helpful advice and you are further down the road than me so you will have developed your own coping mechanisms. Just wanted to let you know that someone has read that understands and is rooting for your continued sobriety. Keep strong and KOKO. flowers

lolaflores Sat 31-Oct-15 14:31:10

It is the physical sensation of alcohol in my system.....tasting it, the warm buzz about two glasses in but obviously not the horrible oblivion and the next day. I have had a shite hole of a year physically and mentally. The bottle of wine seems a good way out. Y
You know what? I found myself in the drinks aisle whilst out shopping a few days ago. a place I do not usually even give a second thought to. My husband drinks and it doesn't bother me because up until now I am unfased by being around alcohol
What the fuck is going on with me

Turvytopsy Sat 31-Oct-15 14:32:31

wisey living up to your user name there and putting it much better than I could.

lolaflores Sat 31-Oct-15 14:33:42

I stopped drinking because I couldn't handle it anymore in so many ways. I love the weight loss, the clarity, the calmer outlook it has given me but I feel so angry and lonely at the moment, its just the time for an old friend like gin.

Wordsaremything Sat 31-Oct-15 18:26:41

I understand. smile
Can you pinpoint what is triggering you especially now? You said you've gD a bad year... So that's one thing. Are you eating ok and reasonably healthily?

Wordsaremything Sat 31-Oct-15 18:31:21

What used to help me was the thought that I never woke up after drinking again after a long period of abstinence and though' gosh, I'm so glad I did that!' Not once. It's not that bad stuff inevitably followed immediately. It didn't. It always did in the end though. Always.

akaWisey Sat 31-Oct-15 18:38:43

I've spent countless hours and many thousands of pounds in therapy over the years. But by far the best, most loving thing I've done for myself was to stop drinking. That was all the therapy I really needed and it cost me absolutely nothing.

I've never said that before, but being sober has made me more honest for sure. smile

lolaflores Sun 01-Nov-15 15:10:30

This is going to sound very very odd. At mass I take communion and a a sip of the makes bells and bubbles go off in my head. I am sure it is only like 0.1 PERCENT of nothing alcohol wise but the feel of it.... I know that a drink is a short cut to an epic argument (have tried to kill myself after such events), black outs and god knows what else. I feel a bit desperate.

ILiveAtTheBeach Sun 01-Nov-15 16:04:41

I am about to go dry. I'm not an alcoholic, but I know I've been drinking more lately, so I am going to drastically cut back. I did it last year and lost a lot of weight. Any mantra's or words of wisdom would be great. Well done OP. If I was where you are, I wouldn't "break the spell".

summerainbow Sun 01-Nov-15 18:50:53

Don't drink the communication wine .
It keeping you remembering the fix . If you need to give up you have to give up everything.

lolaflores Sun 01-Nov-15 19:12:31

I drank the communion stuff. it feels as though it has undermined all the work. even if it is sanctified etc.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: