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what do i tell him ......

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kayla999 · 31/10/2015 11:31

Hi my son is 9 years old and I am a single mum for many many reasons I left his dad and ofc took my ds with me. he saw ds until he was about 6 month old then stopped kept making excuses I have no money I'm poorly and my favourite its to windy !!!!! Since then he has made no attemot to be in my sons life which is fine but ofc questions start I explained what his sperm donor was like and hes accepted it well though there were many questions understandably. The problem is hes saying now that he knows his father has other kids (idk how he knows) but do I tell him he does have kids inc me by at least 3 diff ppl idk how to handle tbh

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pocketsaviour · 31/10/2015 11:45

Sorry, I don't understand what you're asking.
Your DS knows he has half-brothers and sisters (?)
What are you needing to handle?

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kayla999 · 31/10/2015 20:13

Yes does he need to know he hasn't bin involved with that side since 6 months and were in totally diff areas I'd like input from others cos its causin alot of confusion

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wannaBe · 31/10/2015 20:22

So your ex has other children and your ds has asked?

well the way you handle it is to be honest - tell the truth - that his ex has other children but that you don't know any more than that (assuming you don't).

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holeinmyheart · 31/10/2015 21:08

When Madelaine McCann's Mother sought help from a very expensive child psychologist as to how to deal with her two remaining children. ( regarding the disappearance of Madeleine ) he told her to TELL THE TRUTH to them.
So just answer your sons questions truthfully.
Hopefully you won't slag his biological Father off to much however tempting it might be.
When he is older you could answer his questions in more detail.

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kayla999 · 01/11/2015 08:37

Ty this was my gut instinct but didn't want to handle it wrong as its a big thing others said don't tell him making it confusing. When I tlk about the sperm donor I only say ur dad and let ds draw conclusions from there n if he wants to find him that's fine ty so much for ur input rly helps