Summary of situation.
Married coming up 10 years. Circa 3 months ago, evidence uncovered of multiple (and I mean multiple) infidelities. I filed for divorce. The last few years of the marriage had been exceptionally hard. Intimacy, communication all had broken down. Both our faults. Anytime I tried to talk or broach the walls, I was faced with immense anger and criticism. I in turn erected my walls. You see how this ends.
He never ever sat me down to say he was unhappy. Or sad. Or lonely. Or any of those things.
Now that he is facing the consequences of his actions, now the emotions come out. Anger, loneliness, depression, shame and guilt. He is in mediation telling me how tough the last few months have been on him. Because they've been such a walk in the park for me of course. The week I discovered what he had been up to and the extent of his activities was the worst week of my life.
Quite honestly I couldn't give a flying fuck if he is feeling lonely. Or sad. Or depressed. He cheated, multiple times. He used our money to cheat. He used time that he should have been at home with our DC's to sleep with other people. Then he came home and kissed us with that mouth. Sickening.
Is my reaction wrong? Should I feel some empathy or sympathy towards him?
Have any others faced this and if so how have you coped?
Because I sit in mediation looking at this semi weeping man and I feel like an iceberg in response. I just don't know if that's normal. Is it?
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Now he starts talking and sharing....in mediation!!!!
TooSassy · 29/10/2015 20:02
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.