I've posted this here rather than 'Sex', as the problem isn't with actual sex per se, but when to find the time to do it; more of a fitting-it-in-around-family-life thing.
DP and I have a baby together and children each from previous relationships, the oldest of whom are at secondary school.
Baby (nearly eight months) is still very wakeful, and for the last two evenings, for the first time, has given me an evening (i.e. by not waking four or five times before I go to bed). So that's progress!
But then we had one of the older kids up until nearly 10pm last night, and the other was due home any time between 10pm and 11pm. Then while I was seeing that he got to bed OK, DP - knackered by that point - went to bed himself.
DP is really missing sex. I wasn't even thinking about it until recently (too tired!), but now would like to resume some semblance of a sex life.
The problem is, we just can't see how or when we can do it. Baby stirs all night (and most evenings). We're up with her any time from 6am, and the oldest kids are up of an evening pretty much until we go to bed.
Possibly naively, we just didn't foresee this problem. There's a reasonable age difference between us, and we don't want DP to be old and me menopausal before we can resume a regular, satisfying sex life! And as much as it would keep DP ticking over (although he wouldn't be that satisfied TBH), I don't want only quickies for the foreseeable. Quick squeezes and gropes here and there don't do it for me at all. But foreplay seems an impossibility.
What the heck can we do?!
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Can't seem to find time for sex. What can we do?
Justbuildashed · 29/10/2015 15:13
Thanks for posts.
My eldest is here every evening. He sees his dad regularly, but doesn't stay overnight.
DP's kids are here every other weekend and one night a week. The kids' weekends with their other parents aren't in sync, and it works better this way TBH.
Baby takes all her naps on me. (Won't sleep for more than a few minutes if I put her down.)
So quickies it is! 
Sleep training? Your baby has some poor habits and they are fixable. Getting her to settle and sleep would go a long way. Agree that at this stage quickies are the best you can hope for. When you arrange find the older DC are out/away then you might be able to manage a more meaningful encounter. 
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